Going it alone


Have you ever missed out on doing something because you didn’t want to go alone?

I have.  When I was younger this fear stopped me doing so many things, even getting into boxing earlier in life – simply because I had no one one to go with

That annoying voice in my head would tell me unhelpful stories like ‘everyone else will prob know each other’ and ‘I’ll be the only one who doesn’t know what I’m doing’.

Doing things on my own has always scared me. Being an introvert, walking into a room where everyone else is chatting to each other fills me with dread. What if no one talks to me and I’m stand in the corner on my own like a lemon?

That’s why I make that extra effort for people to feel safe and comfortable when they come to 12 Rounds. Fun and connection are 2 of our values and helping people feel safe is my speciality.

I love making sure I organise people in pairs when they come to my classes. Not only does it avoid anyone feeling like a spare part, it encourages people to get to know each other and have a bit of a laugh while their working out on the pads.

When I was learning boxing, one of my biggest fears was not having a partner (one gym I went to if you didn’t have a partner everyone would just start working and you would be left standing there and have to approach two friends and ask if you could join them – it was horrible!)

Fears can control you and leave you missing out on all kinds of opportunities.  But only if you let them.  Like in boxing, sometimes you have to to just step forward into the shot with your guard up.  Sounds counter intuitive but it takes the power right out of the shot.

Same with fears. The min you face them they lose their power over you.

If fear of going it alone holds you back, here are 3 tips to help you step out of your comfort zone

1. Take action 
Whatever it is that you want to accomplish. Book yourself in for an initial session. Preferably something that’s paid for. That means you’ve made a commitment and an investment in yourself – AND there’s a cost to not attending so you’re less likely to duck out of it

2. Be organised
Leave in plenty of time to find the venue, get a coffee on the way and arrive in a relaxed state
If I’m unsure of something I know I have tendency to procrastinate and miss trains – then I can lie to myself and say it wasn’t my fault and have an excuse for why I didn’t go. Don’t let yourself off that easily!

3.  Engage                                                                                                                                                                                  Don’t go in half heartedly.  Challenge yourself to engage in the process. Ask questions. Get a seat at the front of the room. Introduce yourself to people. Remember everyone else is in the same boat and likely feeling the same nerves.

Stepping into a boxing ring and competing takes a lot of courage. It also takes courage to overcome that first hurdle and step into the gym in the first place.  Don’t live to regret what you didn’t do, step into the fear and who knows where it could lead?


Why less is sometimes more when it comes to reaching your training goals

It’s no secret that one of my pet hates is over training. It’s something that’s close to my heart because it’s something that used to affect me a great deal.

I was that person

I was that person that did high intensity exercise 5-6 days a week. My weekly training routine consisted of 2-3 intense boxing sessions, crossfit, heavy lifting and sprints

I desperately wanted to drop body fat so I thought the only way to do this was to keep pushing my body

I didn’t get results this way

All it led to was frustration and tears. Why was it that I was working so hard but still not losing weight?

What did come out of it was I went on to explore the whole mindset side of things and the understand the nervous system

Now it’s very clear to me why over training doesn’t work and how it’s actually quite dangerous

If you are confused too here’s the science bit:

  • Exercise is not what makes you loses weight
  • Exercise is a stimulus that the body then adapts and responds to – during the recovery phase
  • Meaning recovery is just as important as the exercise it’self

The nervous system: Recovery happens in our parasympathetic nervous system. If we keep training for hours on end we keep our body sympathetic. It then becomes very very difficult to access the parasympathetic system. Without allowing ourselves to become parasympathetic our bodies can’t mobilise fat, build muscle and do all the things we need them to do to keep ourselves strong and healthy

The other thing is when we train for over an hour at a time, partially cardio, we start to break down muscle tissue. WE WANT TO RETAIN AS MUCH MUSCLE TISSUE AS POSSIBLE AS THIS KEEPS OUR METABOLISM HIGH

I get it that training can be addictive. All this stress hormones running through our veins feels good, it gives us energy and a dopamine high

But like any addiction the high are short lived and you have to keep doing more and more to get the same effects

Continuing like this means you literally fry your nervous system and could end up with chronic fatigue at a later date

So less really is more

My advice:  – keep your training sessions to one hour
(unless you are training for a competition or specific goal, and then you should take professional advice about supplements and rest in between sessions)
– Ensure you have a mix between cardio, resistance training and stretching throughout the week
– Make sure you are fuelling your body correctly for the amount of training you do

As Jim Rohn once said ‘Take care of your body, it’s the only place you have to live’