This weekend I was teaching a lovely group of people how to get really clear on their goals for 2017 and then create a plan of action to make it happen
I talked a lot about getting intentional. About setting yourself up for success Instead of waking up and seeing what life is going to throw at you
Most of us barely have time to have a cup of tea to ourselves. It’s no wonder we don’t take time to figure out what we really want and why. It’s why we end up with a body we didn’t ask for, a job we didn’t ask for and generally a life we didn’t ask for
But I believe this is the most valuable work you will ever do
Here’s a little story about what happens when you drift along and let life happen ‘to you’
A few years ago I went on a trip to Croatia, sailing round the islands. Sounds nice eh? It was my worst holiday ever.
Let me explain.
I decided at the ripe old age of 35, it was time I went on a girls holiday (think I had a mini mid life crisis but that another story) I booked up the trip with a few girls I worked with, didn’t really pay much attention to where or what we were doing. Croatia? Never been, sailing? sounds great for working on the tan. I imagined lying on the deck of a yacht, lazily reading books by day and enjoying relaxing meals at night, taking in the scenery. I was pretty burned out from working long hours at my first PT job so I was really looking forward to lots of rest
Now the reality and what I’d imagined turned out to be very different. I found myself on a 18-30 type booze cruise. The cabin was so small you could barely swing a cat. And have you ever tried to sleep in 40 degree heat without air con? What was worse was the cruise was populated by 20 something Aussies, getting on it from 10am in the morning. Now Aussies – love them dearly and getting ‘on it’ I have been known to like a night out but the 2 combined on a boat for 7 days straight?
What made everything worse was I had no escape. My vision of a peaceful cruise, spent reading and sunbathing was completely shattered as we sailed out to sea to thumping techno music and the captain tuned DJ shouting ‘Who want’s to Paaarrrrttttyyyy?’
I cried. Every night
Now there’s a point to my story and here it is
This is what happens when you don’t actively choose what you want – you end up with things you don’t. I did not want this type of holiday. Yet because I was so passive in the decision making, I got exactly what I didn’t want
This is why I’m always harping on about taking time to get really clear on what you DO want
Most people won’t do it
They’ll go into another year just throwing our random punches and hoping something will land
It’s like going into a boxing match with your eyes closed
If you don’t know what you are aiming for how can you expect to land the shot?
Now my example is just a holiday. I survived my 7 days of hell on a boat
But what happens when you don’t know what you want in other areas of your life?
Ask yourself, are you really clear what you want for your health, your career, your body, your finances, your relationships?
Most people don’t know themselves enough to really know what they want – and then they wonder why they didn’t land anything and are making the same resolutions year after year
it takes a bit of time and effort but wouldn’t you rather set yourself up for a knockout year rather than more of the same?
What I advised the guys who came to my workshop on the weekend was take the time to get really clear on what you want in each area of your life then work out the least stressful and most enjoyable way to get there
Happiness is a journey, not a destination 🙂